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​Why We Chose a Micro Wedding as a Lesbian Couple

First off, I am now adding wedding planner to my resume. I have a newfound respect for that profession after FOUR months of rapid planning. It's no secret that I have been married and divorced. The shame surrounding that poor first trial has finally subsided in my body. Funny thing is that my current partner, like me, never wanted to be married. It wasn't legal l at the time she was in a long-term situation and she's grateful. For me, well... long story. The short version is that it happened, and it was quickly processed at the courthouse.

When we sat down and made the decision to do this because we could not fathom being unmarried (only to one another), she straight up said to me we were at some point going to have a ceremony. She wanted my mom and sister included as they were excluded the first time. She wanted what we shared to be treated differently. 

When my partner and I first started planning our wedding, we quickly realized that the traditional big wedding wasn't quite our style. We wanted something intimate, meaningful, and reflective of our unique journey as a queer couple. I did a bit of research, and the term 'micro wedding' flooded my screen. 

This was the opportunity to create an intimate atmosphere. With fewer guests, we were able to focus on the people who mean the most to us—our closest family and friends. This allowed us to share our day with those who have been part of our journey, supporting and loving us unconditionally. 

The smaller guest list meant that we could spend quality time with each guest. At larger weddings, it’s easy for the couple to get swept up in the whirlwind of events and barely have a moment to breathe, let alone connect with everyone. We wanted to be fully present with each person there, sharing laughs, memories, and heartfelt conversations.

For us, a micro wedding also meant staying true to ourselves. Traditional weddings often come with expectations and norms that might not align with every couple’s vision. As a lesbian couple, we wanted to break away from any conventions that didn’t resonate with us. A smaller wedding gave us the freedom to create a ceremony and celebration that truly reflected our personalities and relationship.

We personalized every aspect of our wedding, from writing our own vows to choosing a non-traditional venue that held special meaning for us. The focus was on our love and commitment, rather than on grand displays or formalities. This authenticity was incredibly important to us.

Weddings can also be expensive, and we wanted to ensure that we were spending our money on things that truly mattered to us. A micro wedding allowed us to prioritize our budget. We could invest in quality over quantity. We splurged on a beautiful location, food, and a fantastic photographer who captured every precious moment.

This approach meant we didn't have to stress over a massive budget or feel pressured to invite distant relatives and acquaintances just to fill a large venue. Every penny spent was for something that added genuine value to our day.

Wedding planning can be notoriously stressful, but opting for a micro wedding significantly reduced our stress levels. Coordinating a smaller event meant fewer logistics, less pressure, and more room for creativity. We had the time and energy to focus on the details that mattered to us, making the planning process enjoyable rather than overwhelming.

By keeping things simple, we also minimized the chances of things going wrong. There were fewer moving parts, which meant we could relax and enjoy our wedding day without constantly worrying about what might go awry.

As a lesbian couple, creating a comfortable and inclusive environment for our wedding was crucial. We wanted our guests to feel at ease and for the celebration to reflect our values. A micro wedding allowed us to carefully curate the guest list, ensuring that everyone in attendance was supportive and accepting of our relationship.

This smaller, more intimate setting made it easier for us to foster an atmosphere of love and acceptance. We felt free to express ourselves fully, knowing we were surrounded by people who genuinely cared for us and celebrated our union.

Ultimately, our decision to have a micro wedding was about creating lasting memories. We wanted our wedding day to be a reflection of our love story, filled with personal touches and meaningful moments. The intimacy of a micro wedding allowed us to savor each moment, from the ceremony to the reception, and to look back on our special day with nothing but fondness and joy.

Choosing a micro wedding was one of the best decisions we made as a couple. It allowed us to celebrate our love in a way that felt authentic, intimate, and stress-free (sort-of). For any couple, especially those in the LGBTQ+ community, considering a micro wedding can be a beautiful way to honor your relationship and create a day that truly reflects who you are. I'm happy to share my detailed budget sheet with anyone!

Our micro wedding was everything we dreamed of and more, and we wouldn’t have had it any other way. 

Introducing Mrs. and Mrs. Thomas!